'It's not for me to tell you to be patient any more than it was for others to counsel patience to African-Americans who were petitioning for equal rights a half-century ago.' 'I know that many in this room don't believe that progress has come fast enough, and I understand that,' Obama said. With first lady Michelle Obama at his side, the president told the cheering crowd filling the East Room that his administration would work to repeal the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and end the 'don't ask, don't tell' policy regarding gays in the military.